Confession time. It wasn’t until my last 2 years of stripping that I actually understood what I was supposed to do/say. That means there was a good 8 years of completely fucking up, crying at any and all rude comments from patrons, hating the girls who were always in VIP and not understanding what the hell these people wanted. Some of us have the ability to click instantly with this job, some of us struggle daily. I was one of the unlucky few who left many shifts in the negative. While I cannot give you a perfect fairytale story of my succexxx, what I can give you is what not to do from first hand experience. You’re welcome.
We get it, this job is based solely on your looks. So when a customer insults that or simply does not want you it can be taken pretty personally. That’s where you go all wrong. Nothing about any of this should be taken to heart or allowed to influence your mood. Instead you should see this as an opportunity to change their mind, a psychology experiment if you will. Sometimes people say no because they just got there, the dancer before was rude, their day was shit and entertaining any conversation at the moment seems like hell. It doesn’t always have to do with you.
Trying to change that no around into a yes can actually be a fun game if you detach the personal ouch that comes along with hearing that word. We are so conditioned to taking any kind of rejection down a negative path, but what can you do to change that to a positive one? Try to figure out what it is that is causing this person to tell you no and flip it. Creative approaches are super useful in these situations and should be practiced and perfected. Soon it will be second nature to you to take that initial negative feeling and replace it with a positive one.
Playing the field constantly is another common mistake many dancers make. “I shouldn’t go back to him because I already danced for him” is limiting you. Did someone tell you to come back in 15 and you never did? Why? GO BACK! It is not against any rules to return to the same customer you have already danced for, asked you to revisit them or even has already told you no. Part of the reason I tell you this is because it’s also important to look busy and like your time is precious (because it is.) If you aren’t valuing your time by sitting around with the “I’ve already talked to everyone in this room” excuse you are making it known you’re not in any demand. Not even to yourself. Get comfortable with revisiting, coming back in 15 min and trying the no guy again.
Sure the stage is cool and all but when it comes to hustling and making more than 1’s nobody cares. The money is in floor dances and private room. It hurts me to say that because stage was my favorite part. What I will say is I’ve seen clubs that could care less a dancer is busting her ass on the pole, and ones where that’s all anyone wants to see. Somewhere like Alaskan Bush Company in Anchorage has no VIP, all dances are on the floor and the stage is dead center of the room. Extremely well lit up with a chair rail along it and it is always filled with eager customers. That club cares about stage. A small hole in the wall where most come to escape reality or duck in before their flight? You can sell the crap out of VIP there, but the chances of anyone getting off their ass to your stage are slim to none. You have to figure out your club/audience in order to make the most out of your shift.
Spending all your earnings from the day on expensive outfits is completely unnecessary. For me this was hard because next door to my club was a dancer wear store. When it was dead, where do you think we would all go? You can find the same cute things on Amazon that you can at any big name lingerie store. We have already reviewed a few Amazon sellers for you here! Plus if you sweat, rub up on strangers, get drinks spilled on your very expensive lingerie how long do you think it is going to last? Trust me when I say wearing your Agent Provocateur to the strip club should be saved for special occasions.
While this might all sound like common sense to you, the moment we walk into the building we sometimes forget to leave shit at the door. Like I said it took me 8 years of trial and error and ugly crying to figure out how to maximize my profits. To learn how to take rejection gracefully. This is one of the only jobs where nobody shows you the ropes before you become an employee. You’re literally left to figure it all out on your own. Learning how to read a room, dodge all negatives by turning them into positives and save your money will be the three things to guarantee succexxx…. and that you’re not a terrible stripper. (Like I was!)